Dating Guide for Men

November 26, 2020

Dating could be challenging for some people. Especially if you have been out of the game for so long. As a dating expert in Malaysia, here's the top dating guide for men!

1. How not to be friendzoned?

In modern dating, friendzoned is absolutely a nightmare. The first dating guide is: you don’t want to be the harassing creepy guy but you also don’t want to end up being just her friends. Especially when you have different intentions.

Sometimes, men forget this: women don't put you in friendzoned situations! You created that yourself! If you don’t communicate your intentions clearly when you’re helping her with a project, giving her a ride to the gym or accompanying her to the mall, you’re creating your friendzone! Remember that your actions are communicating the type of relationship you want.

So don’t communicate friendship and then expect that she owes you a relationship! If you want a relationship, go in for that. Be clear that it’s a date, be clear that you find her attractive. If she suggests that you meet up as a friend then you can say “Why don’t we meet up for a date?” And at the end of the date you can decide or can decide together whether you can be friends or you can be more than friends.

Always communicate clearly what your intentions are and keep them really consistent. Her attraction time is different to yours. She may not feel exactly the same way right now. But she’s more likely to become attracted to you if you’re clearly and consistently communicating your intention that you’re interested in dating her.

2. How to escape from friendzone?

Better relationship is built when you’re taking feedback or signals and you’re reacting to that.

If you’re giving her all your time and energy but she’s not reciprocating to that, then it’s healthy for you to take feedback on that. Take a step back, meet her less often, be more aloof, treat her like a distant friend, or date other women. And then maybe you can shake the dynamic and re-engage with her romantically.

3. Biggest Mistake in Online Dating

Do you know that 70% male are in online dating apps? So because of that, even men who perform better on online dating are sending a lot of messages out to their matches. It’s normal that you may not get the same amount of responses in return. What you need to look for is women who really want to date. Women who are not on the dating app just to chat, they don’t have a fake profile, they don't have profiles that they’re not using anymore.

If you match with a woman, make sure you send her a message within 24 hour and then always respond within 24 hour too. Research shows that when you don’t respond within 24 hours, the chances of going out on a date with her are halved! When she’s showing signs that she’s open, she wants to chat, she wants to meet you, ask for her number and take it to the real world when it really counts. If she’s cancelling you repeatedly, then please have some self respect. Don’t pursue her anymore and move on!

Those are the top dating guide for men in Malaysia, brought to you by Lunch Actually - Malaysia's best dating service. Let us know if you have practiced these! Good luck ?

Dirga Putra